While so much energy is put into preventing teenage pregnancy, there’s little support for women age 18 and under who experience a miscarriage.

The insensitivity adults experience around miscarriage can be exponentially worse for teens, who are often told, “This is a blessing,” or “This worked out for the best,” or even, “You got lucky” – all of which are terrible things to say to someone who has just had not only a potentially painful physical experience, but also an emotional loss.

Instead, teenagers should be treated with respect and compassion during a miscarriage. This is an emotionally, mentally, and physically challenging period in everyone’s lives, and compounding that with the complicated experience of pregnancy loss only exaggerates those challenges.

Miscarriage Risk Factors for Teens

Teenagers are at an even greater risk of miscarriage and complications from pregnancy than the average adult woman. With so many teens not knowing they’re pregnant until much later in pregnancy, or not seeking prenatal care in order to keep the pregnancy a secret, their risk factors become an even greater threat. Such risk factors include:

  • Age, especially for teens 15 and underObesity, a growing problem among children of all agesBeing underweightSexually transmitted infectionsSubstance abuse, including alcohol and tobacco useLack of prenatal care

Adolescents and older teens are also at greater risk for preeclampsia, a condition that usually develops in the second or third trimester and can cause stillbirth.

Miscarriage Treatment for Teens

Generally, the treatment for miscarriage is no different for teens than it is for adult women. It’s worth considering a few special circumstances that affect teens, however:

  • Inexperience: A pregnancy during the teenage years is often a woman’s first, and many teens have never even had a gynecologic exam. In fact, they may have never even been treated in a hospital. Teens will often be anxious and scared of procedures and exams they may be required to have as part of their care.
  • Consent Issues: Except in case of emergency, most states will require a parent’s consent for a teen to get treatment for a miscarriage. Many times, this is the first time a parent learns about her daughter’s pregnancy, which adds tremendous stress to an already difficult situation.
  • Avoidance of Treatment: There have been cases of teenagers avoiding medical treatment during a miscarriage due to fear of getting in trouble with parents, as well as fear of judgment by friends, family, and medical professionals. A teenager dealing with a loss on her own will not learn the warning signs of complications, like infection, excessive bleeding, or retained placenta, and may put her health at risk.
  • Partner’s Rights: Depending on local law, hospital policy, and parental preference, a teen’s significant other may not be allowed to be present during a miscarriage. This can be hard for both the teen and her significant other, whose grief process may be affected.
  • Legal Issues: In some cases, the emotional difficulty of a miscarriage will be compounded by legal troubles as well. Depending on a teenager’s age at the time of a pregnancy loss, a hospital social worker could be obligated to report the case to social services as statutory rape.

Miscarriage Recovery Issues for Teens

Like anyone after pregnancy loss, teenagers have physical and emotional recovery issues to deal with. As a teen, there may be additional difficulties in coping.